In the video “He Will Give You Help”, the young man Darren in the video lost his best friend Christopher “Beans” because a semi hit the car that Darren, Christopher and another Chris was in. Darren was the driver and his friends were passengers. Beans was killed, the other Chris was in a coma and Darren was able to walk away. Darren felt that it was may be his fault, because he was the driver. Darren’s car slid on some ice on the road in bad weather which cause the semi to hit the car. Darren now has to live with the fact that his best friend is gone. It is a hard thing to lose a friend; it is even a harder thing to lose a friend at your own hand. That fact of the matter is not whether or not they should have been driving on the road in bad weather, it is the fact that the accident happen and now Darren has to live with the chose that they was driving in bad weather when they may have had other options to keep themselves alive or not hurt. In any case, the Lord is the one who will make all wrongs right and judge Darren, not me or the world.
“But there is a resurrection, therefore the grave hath no victory, and the sting of death is swallowed up in Christ.” (Mosiah 16:8). Darren will have to live with this the rest of his life. However, the Lord is the one that will be able to help Darren to know that He is there to help him and give him add in knowing that some things no matter how good or bad they are happen for a reason. The reason may not be clear to Darren now, but in time Darren will know God’s will and why he lived and was able to walk home while one of his friends was dead and the other was in the hospital in a coma.
Far too often in this life things happen and we may or may not have control over the outcome. We may feel as if things are our fault, whether they are or not is not what is to be learned. What is to be learned is what the Lord would have us to learn. We cannot point the finger at ourselves or at others for the loss of a live. We cannot be upset with our Father in Heaven or His Son Jesus Christ because we do not get the answers right away. We must have faith and trust in him to overcome such hard things. Sometimes it may be more than we think we can handle and some people do not overcome such hardships and end up taken their own lives because of the guilt they have inside. Darren did not do that, for he was able to keep the faith and was able to find trust in the Lord and to come to some understanding of why the accident happen. However, it will take a live time to fully understand what the Lord knows and sometimes it will happen after this life is over to really understand and to know what the Lord knows.
I have seen when people get in to a car accident and have killed another person, how hard it is on them, or worse when someone in the car that was with them died because of the chooses that other people make and ask “why me Lord, or why them and not me.” I have stop counting how many times I have help put people behind bars for the chooses they make while driving drink. I know is the case of Darren that this did not happen. However, any time we drive and it is not safe we need to get off of the road before things like that happen. I lesson learned the hard way is not a lesson learned, but change in the way we live our lives. Do not think that I am saying that Darren is in the wrong here, I am just saying that when we are young and do not have the experience of others, that sometimes the risks of getting home on time is not worth the ends or the means.
Having worked as a security officer helping law enforcement over the years, I have seen way too many accidents and have all ways wondered how people were able to walk away or not kill themselves or others. I tell you this not to upset you, however, just to point out that is happen more often than we think. Do not over or under estimate your driving skills. When the roads are bad or it is late at night, be careful and watch out of people doing things they should not be doing.
The Lord can and does help people overcome such hardships; remember that we can overcome them and that it will not happen overnight. It took me while over a year when my friend killed herself by taken too much of her own heart medication. It was hard on me and I did not know why the Lord would allow such a thing to happen. I fell into despair. I was upset with the Lord Jesus Christ and mostly at Heaven Father. I felt that Heavenly Father did not love me and that He did not her family, to allow such a thing to happen to her. It toke time and it toke a LOT of learning how to have faith and trust in the Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father to come to any understanding of why good things happen to bad people and why bad things happen to good people.
I also had to get over the fact that there was nothing I could have done to help her. I was not there that night that it happen. Sometimes I wish I was there to stop her from doing it. However, if it was going to happen, there may have been nothing that I could have done to make a difference, if that is how she real felt inside. I do not think that she would have done it, if I could have really known what she was felling. However, I would like to think that she would have not done so if she know how much I really loved her. Even if she did, I am not sure that it would have made any difference. All I know is that it was done for a reason that only she knows and that I will find out when I get to the other side of the veil. What I do know is that the Lord does help us in our time of need and that He does care about us and He does strengthen us and He does give us add. “How Firm a Foundation” Hymn number 85 reminds me of this every time I hear it, that He does love us and that He is always there to help us.